Random Musings

Phone Calls and Dinner Dates

This revelation might seem a little stupid, but to me, it just seems ingenious, so please bear with me as I share it with you.

As you’ve might have read on here before, I work a wonky schedule. As such, I don’t have a lot of time to dedicate to a social life, since I’m always working when everyone else has off and vice versa. Not that I had much of a social life before, but of course I’ve decided I want more of one now that it’s more difficult.


Now that I play DnD regularly with my friends on Friday nights and have a very extroverted boyfriend who helps me get out of the house–not to mention I’m still really close with my family and would like to see them more often than not, there’s a lot of things and people to try and balance each weekend. Thanks to DnD, I really only have Saturdays as my weekend day to really do anything and…well, it makes it kinda rough, to see everyone I want to see and do everything I want to do on a regular basis. There’s a lot of saying no to one group in order to see another, which can be hard, sometimes. Until I get an 8am-5pm job, this issue isn’t really going to go away.

Which meant I had to get a little creative.

One way is through phone calls. I have a friend who lives across the country and we have phone dates around once a month to stay in touch, so I dunno why I didn’t think of this as a method to stay in touch with some of the friends who live closer to me, yet opposite work schedules make it difficult to catch up. I see my best friend once a week, thanks to DnD, but we usually dive into the campaign pretty quickly, so we don’t really have time to catch up. So, last week, she called me during her lunch break, which is roughly an hour before I have to go to work, as well, and we caught up. And that was pretty awesome. So we’re going to try and do that every Wednesday (or every other Wednesday), if our schedules allow.

Then, there’s my dinner break.

I came up with the idea of inviting the lovely boyfriend to snag me for my dinner break twice a month and either run out and grab a quick bite to eat together or I make enough food for the both of us to eat back in my cubicle. He’s a sweetheart and agreed to try this out with me, since I wanted to see him more often and us working completely opposite work schedules makes that hard to do, during the work week, which I don’t like, because I feel like we miss so much of the day-to-day stuff that we then assault one another with, story wise, Friday evenings. So it’d be nice to try to see one another more often, too. We haven’t gotten to try it, yet, but I’m excited to see how it goes next week!

Both of these solutions are simple things, phone calls and dinner dates. Yet I can’t help but get excited about both of them, whenever I realize they are things that are going to happen. Even though they’re simple changes and it doesn’t solve the issue of running out of time on the weekends or making plans for multiple weekends in a row before I have a free one, it still enables me to see/talk/catch-up-with some of my favorite people on a more regular basis than my schedule allows now. The only snag so far is that my family isn’t included in these sneaky tricks to stay in touch, but I’m putting in the effort to try and see them more often, too.

It’s not perfect and it’s not some genius solution, but it’s a step in making my socializing and work balance a little more manageable.

I’ll take that.


2 thoughts on “Phone Calls and Dinner Dates”

  1. I think that the reason phone calls didn’t seem obvious at first is because the world is so electronic now. Email, text, Insta, Snap, FB, it’s all really more about the quick typing or emoji than talking. I bet if you took a poll a lot of people would say they hardly ever talk on the phone. Weird world, lol!

    1. I think you’re totally right. Or there is this stigma that a phone call takes a long time and you have to dedicate a lot of time to it, whereas a text or something else like that is much quicker and easier. But with that friend, we actually hardly text at all, so having that phone call actually makes a lot more sense. I just didn’t think about it!

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