Last Updated on April 13, 2021 by ThoughtsStained
This is a topic I’m really excited to explore today, being something I’ve struggled with more than I realized until I sat down to write this post, after looking at myself in the online space and trying to create a presence and a name there over the years, across multiple platforms. Currently, I’m trying to process living and creating within the labels I use for myself, as a writer, blogger and general nerd, yet also feeling like it is impossible to box a person and perhaps we should…not try to so hard to do so, despite some of the positives of using labels to create an online identity?
What Do I Mean By Box?
So, I’m focusing particularly on book blogging throughout most of this post, but I think this applies in many different spheres, too. But, ever since I started my blog in 2012 (!!) and then switched to becoming a book blogger in 2016, I have struggled with that label and that identity, in some ways, because it felt narrowed and limited, as well as brought in feelings of falsehood and being a fraud or imposter, because I’m a book blogger who also blogs about everything.
So, back when I wrote my first book review which introduce me into what book blogging is and the community, showing me this is a really amazing thing and holy shit, I really want to be a part of it; I initially created a separate blog, called Erlebnisse, to be my book blog, while Thoughts Stained With Ink remained my personal blog. I kept that up for…maybe a year? Maybe a little longer (or perhaps even less? I’m not even sure at this point)? But, it became not only too challenging to keep up, but also too unwieldy and felt…well, it felt really, really disingenuine for me, honestly.
Yet, looking at other book bloggers at the time, it felt like I needed to produce certain content to claim and market myself as a book blogger, to “earn” that label and create a readership (i.e., book tags and memes, book reviews, bookish discussion posts and lists, monthly wrap-ups and book hauls); that, if I tried to add in anything different, I wasn’t a true book blogger, because I didn’t fit into the box of what readers would expect from a “typical” book blogger. There was this unspoken expectation that to fit into that community, I needed to only show one side of myself and hide the rest.
Before I get into my feelings about all of that, I did want to take a moment and discuss the positives and negatives of using something like a label, like book blogger, to build an online persona or fit into an online space. Because, regardless of how you interact in the online sphere (and I DO wholeheartedly believe it should be each individuals choice), there are positives and negatives to how you use labels.
Positives of Labels and Boxes
- It creates expectations. When someone tells me they are a book blogger, I already know what to expect and have a general idea of the content I might be signing up for, creating a sense of familiarity before I’ve even explored their blog, website or social media.
- Helps find connections and makes marketing easier. I had hardly any followers and barely read any blogs before becoming a book blogger. Through discovering this label, I found a community that has become like a second family to me in many ways and I will forever be thankful for some of the friendships I’ve made with other bloggers! Plus, my own readership has grown because I’ve found a community where I can market and promote my posts.
- Protects your privacy. Since there is this (arguably) unspoken expectation that you don’t need to share anything about your personal life while book blogging, using a label for your online presence, like “book blogger,” allows you an extra layer of protection if sharing other aspects of your life or personality or identity isn’t something you’re interested in doing. (Which, I want it to be clear that obviously I support anyone who doesn’t or, for safety and personal reasons, cannot, share more about who they are in their online spaces and stick more to a persona or to what a book blogger “traditionally” posts. Each person should always have a choice in how they show up online, which is probably the heart of this post, honestly. And I completely recognize everyone might not want to or might not be able to be as personal as I show up on this blog.)
Negatives of Labeling and Boxes
- Creates assumptions. While it can be really nice to know what you’re getting into with expectations that labels create, it can also create assumptions that can be jarring when broken or make it feel suffocating as a creator.
- Creates a monolith or monopoly. However, like I alluded to earlier, calling myself a book blogger not only means that there are assumptions of what my content is, but it also creates this expectation that this is all I am. All I can create, all I can be and all I can speak for.
- Loses sight of nuance and complexity. Similar to the other two points, there is this unspoken pressure to not show other sides of myself because it is impossible to market or build an audience if I can’t fit into a box that’s easily labeled. Yet, sometimes I feel like it creates this erasure where other aspects of my personality and character and who I am are lost because of the expectations of being a book blogger or a writer placed upon me by actively choosing to use that labels.
Why I Struggle
So far, this has been a lot of words to describe my struggle that I’d thought I’d gotten over, since I obviously closed Erlebnisse and deleted that site after merging everything into this blog, where I am “primarily” a book blogger, but I also write about…honestly? Whatever the fuck I want, whether it’s about writing, my mental health, what’s going on in the world, opinion pieces, whatever. And I have loved that change with my website. It feels more wholly me and is much more manageable than trying to disseminate pieces of myself into different places that I’ve boxed into by each label (a place for me as a writer, another space for me as a blogger, another space for me personally, etc).
However, this struggle resurfaced when I started thinking about my Instagram and, eventually, my author website. I plan to use this blog as my author website instead of creating an entirely new one, which might not be how I’m “supposed” to do it, but I plan to have pages that highlight my work and whatnot.
But, with Instagram, while I don’t want to become a bookstagrammer, I do wish I could post some more bookish content. However, I feel like I cannot or am not “allowed” to because I don’t have a page dedicated to that very thing. Yet, I just can’t be bothered to create a whole new Instagram just to post pretty pictures of books. Yet, do people want to see my food pics, dog bombardments and selfies from the bookish community; or, what about personal friends who don’t really care about blogging? Will they want to see bookish content and links to reviews?
In that way, I can definitely see why having a dedicated, “boxed-in” platform makes it easier, especially when I’m trying to balance what I’m doing as a creative and what my audience might want! Yet, in the same vein, I’d love to be able to just use social media platforms that show all facets of me without trying to market to an audience. But, is that foolish thinking? Will that hurt my author career in the long run? Am I being stubborn or naïve in not recognizing and tailoring to an audience?
Honestly, I’m not sure, which is why I’m rambling on and on in this post (thanks for reading to the end, if you made it this far). I’d love to hear your thoughts on this and see if you struggle with the same feelings. Do you feel the same way about using social media and creating platforms for yourself and your work? Do you struggle to balance with showing only certain sides of you or wanting to overshare? Do you separate your accounts and do hodgepodge stuff like I do? Let me know in the comments! I would love to know your thoughts!
I totally get where you’re coming from. It seems everyone is supposed to have a niche, but I personally find them way too confining and just want to write whatever I want. I’ve struggled with this and sometimes still do, but, most of the time, I decide I’m the one paying for this space, putting myself out there, so I’ll write what I want for whoever wants to read it. Of course, there’s always the concern about growing a following and that’s never far from my mind. It’s tough, and I just keep hoping there will be someone out there who wants to read any particular post and maybe they’ll stick around. Otherwise I stick with the writing advice: write what you want to read. Maybe someone else will want to read it, too.
Personally, I love how you write about what you want. It turns you into a faceless blogger who writes about books to a real life person who is so much more than what she posts here. It makes you feel friendly and approachable.
I’m so glad to hear your perspective on this! And I like that you mentioned that we’re paying and making this space, so as long as it’s not harmful, why can’t we have more than one “type” of content? I also comfort myself sometimes by reminding me that, if someone only wants X type of content, they can always skip my posts when I post Y content.
But thank you so, SO much, Kat! It really means a lot!
Jane E. Darling says
I’m not primarily a book blogger. I am a lifestyle blogger who blogs about whatever she wants.
I post book reviews on occasion. I used to frequently, but then the pandemic hit and I stopped reading as much as I did. Book reviews would go up every Monday, but I felt forced to publish reviews then.
What I don’t love about the book blogger community is how there isn’t much info on their personal lives. Like, I want to know the people reviewing the books — not just what they read and what they loved about it. I need that personal connection. I also only read book reviews if I’ve already read the book myself, most of the time, because otherwise the book review is seldom going to convince me to buy the book.
The lack of personal connection just turns me off.
I love this!! I especially content with wanting to know more about the person behind the blogger or website. If they are comfortable sharing, I love to know more about them! And I’m the same when it comes to reviews, which is why I tend to follow book bloggers who post more than “only” reviews (although posting only reviews is obviously fine, too).
Davida Chazan says
I’ve felt a few of these things as well. But I started out blogging about books, so I guess I’m a bit different than you. Let yourself be you, and keep on doing what you enjoy.
Thanks, Davida!! 😀
Lauren Becker says
Very interesting topic. I always say that I’m a book and entertainment blogger, but sometimes I mention lifestyle too. Yes, it can be tough to market yourself if you don’t focus on one thing but I kind of love blogs like that. I do a lot of bookish content – on my blog and Instagram – but I still allow myself to talk about other things and other interests. I think it’s perfectly okay to do that and you can always connect with other bloggers that sometimes talk about books or even no books at all but you have other things in common!!
Yeah, I’m the same! I’ve found my favorite blogs are those who usually have a wide breadth of content! I think I’ve grown confident with my blog being more widespread, but when I think about other social media platforms, I’m not really sure how to approach those. But, I think I just need to do more of the same as I’ve done here, because you’re right: you never know what you might find in common!
Oh I relate SO MUCH to this. This is actually a struggle I had for a very long time and I only vented it out, in a post similar to this, on my blog recently. Letting it out helped and now I don’t call myself a book blogger but do walk into spaces that are meant for book bloggers, if I can say that? Like if someone calls me a book blogger I won’t say no but I do say that my blog is about “books, blogging and lifestyle” and the different facets are easily visible to anyone who sees my blog’s homepage.
So, you’re not alone in this! At all! I’ve actually made many friends and have had discussions with other bloggers who feel the same way and reached out to me/commented on that post of mine. Break the box if you want to! It will be a little tricky and may feel like you don’t have a proper label but it’s definitely worth it.
Oooh, I haven’t blogged hopped in ages, but I have a feeling I might have missed this post, so I am definitely going to be digging through your archives to make sure I read this post, as I’d love to read your thoughts more in-depth about it, since you wrote about it!
And yeah, that totally makes sense! And thank you for letting me know I’m not alone in this! That is actually super comforting!!
Love this post! I created Inkhaven with the sole purpose of writing EVERYTHING and I kept resisting all urges to delete my personal posts and just shift primarily to book blogging. Since this is a hobby for me that I won’t monetize except for having a Ko-fi page, I don’t really feel the pressure to do so. I think having that mindset helps me come up with features that I don’t normally see in other book blogs, and it’s more interesting to write that way!
Yes, I think that’s such an important reminder! Like, I’m not being paid to only be a book blogger, so if I want to get personal, okay? I love that mindset and need to adopt it more myself!!
Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction says
I plan on using my current blog as my writing website as well. It’s just way easier to do it that way, and I already have some built in readership. I don’t think it makes sense to start over from scratch.
That’s so refreshing to hear someone else plans to do that!! I wasn’t sure if I was “breaking rules” by planning to do that! 😛
ahaana @ Windows to Worlds says
omg yes! i love this post so much! currently my blog is only for books, but if i ever want to expand, i won’t make a new one! definitely agree with nicole @ FYFA above – it’s not worth the effort! great post 🤍
Ahh, thank you so much, Ahaana!!
Jenna @ Falling Letters says
I don’t have any advice for you but I just wanted to say that this post and the comments were very enlightening for me to read, as someone who is happy to strictly be a book blogger and keep other/personal topics to a minimum on my blog. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I hope you’re able to work out a system that’s comfortable for you.
Aww, thank you so much, Jenna!!